The easist way to find your PC muscle is to stop the flow of urine by clamping down the muscles in your pelvis that next time you are going to the bathroom. Stopping yourself from peeing was one of the first acts of control you learned to have over your body. Using your ability to control your urine flow can now help you control your ejaculation, because the urinary duct, the ejaculatory duct, and the seminal-vesicle duct all pass through the prostate. (This is why when a man’s prostate is enlarged, he has problems urinating and ejaculating.)

FINDING THE WAY Emptying Your Bladder

Because the bladder and the prostate are so close, you should also urinate before self-pleasuring or lovemaking whenever your bladder feels full. A full bladder will make you feel like you need to ejaculate and can actually make it more difficult for you to stop yourself from ejaculating.

If you have a strong PC muscle, you should be able to stop the flow or urine midstream and then start it again. If (more…)

This exercise builds on the belly breathing you just learned and will help you improve your concentration. In this exercise you count one hundred breaths without letting your mind wander. (A complete inhalation and exhalation is one breath.) This is very simple, but not easy. Most people have difficulty counting to ten, let alone one hundred, without letting their mind wander. One multi-orgasmic man explained his practice: “I go the gym and I’ll sit in the sauna and count my breath in and out as one, in and out as two, all the way to one hundred. Sometimes I’ll be breathing and counting and suddenly around fifty or sixty I realize I’m thinking about stocks or something and I can’t remember what number I’m at, so I go back to one and I just start counting again until I get to one hundred.”
Strengthening Your Sex Muscles
Now it is time to develop your sexual strength. The pubococcygeus muscle, or PC muscle is the muscular sling (more…)

Strange as it may seem, learning to control your ejaculation and to become multiply orgasmic begins with strengthening and deepening your breathing. As is true in all martial arts and meditative practices your breath is the gate through which you can gain control of your body. Breathing is both involuntary and voluntary. In other words, we breathe regularly without thinking about it, but we can also choose to change the rhythm or depth of our breathing. This use of the mind to cultivate the body is the very basis of Sexual Kung Fu.

Your breathing is also related to your heart rate. If you are breathing quickly and shallow, as after running, your heart rate increases. If you are breathing slowly and deeply, your heart rate decreases. Increased heart rate is part of orgasm and breathing quickly is one sign of orgasm’s approach. So the first step in controlling your arousal rate and therefore your ejaculation, is deep and slow breathing. (more…)

Everyone experiences this orgasmic high slightly differently, which makes it difficult to describe in general terms. The experience is often so intense that people resort to mystical language (using phrases like “oneness with the universe”) that is difficult to understand if you have not experienced what is being described. However, people frequently have more concrete sensations such as warmth, tingling, vibrating, or pulsating throughout their body. The best way to know what you might feel is through the descriptions of men who have had whole-body multiple orgasms.

One multi-orgasmic man described his first experience of a whole-body orgasm: “We were making love and I thought I was going to come and I started doing my deep breathing, and as I was doing my deep breathing my head started to kind of electrify – to tingle. Like little sparks going on inside, tingly little things that went up the back of my neck a little bit. It started rushing back and forth in my head. And I almost thought I was going to get (more…)

Each genital orgasm helps release the tension that results from the built-up sexual energy and the increased flow of blood into your pelvis. Several pelvic – non-ejaculatory – orgasms are extremely satisfying (and energizing), but as you develop your orgasmic capacity, you will no doubt want to expand these pelvic orgasms throughout the rest of your body, which is the real secret of the Tao.

Whole-body multiple orgasms also begin with the contractile-phase release of pelvic orgasms, but instead of keeping the sexual energy (and the pleasure) in your pelvis, you draw your sexual energy up your spine, into your brain, and throughout your entire body, as we will show you step by step in the next chapter.

Most men do not even realize they can reach these sexual peaks. Not only do they experience only one orgasm (which, for them, is the same as ejaculation), but they experience this orgasm almost exclusively in their genitals. In Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex (But Were Afraid to Ask), Dr. David Reuben (more…)