Stopping the Stream
The easist way to find your PC muscle is to stop the flow of urine by clamping down the muscles in your pelvis that next time you are going to the bathroom. Stopping yourself from peeing was one of the first acts of control you learned to have over your body. Using your ability to control your urine flow can now help you control your ejaculation, because the urinary duct, the ejaculatory duct, and the seminal-vesicle duct all pass through the prostate. (This is why when a man’s prostate is enlarged, he has problems urinating and ejaculating.)
FINDING THE WAY Emptying Your Bladder
Because the bladder and the prostate are so close, you should also urinate before self-pleasuring or lovemaking whenever your bladder feels full. A full bladder will make you feel like you need to ejaculate and can actually make it more difficult for you to stop yourself from ejaculating.
If you have a strong PC muscle, you should be able to stop the flow or urine midstream and then start it again. If this is difficult for you, your PC muscle is weak. Stopping the flow of urine may sting at first. This is perfectly normal and should stop within a few weeks, unless for some reason you have an infection, in which case you should wait until you have seen a doctor and cleared it up before continuing with the practice. If your muscle becomes sore, you just need practice. Pulling up on your perineum as you push out the urine will help you urinate with more force and will help strengthen your kidneys, prostate gland, and bladder in addition to your PC muscle.
Although standing on your toes and clenching your teeth will help intensify your practice, the most important part of the practice is simply to stop and start urinating as many times as you can. Once multi-orgasmic man described his “peeing practice” this way: “Whenever I go to the bathroom now, I tray to stop and go at least three times. And if I am in a fun mood and I am not in a rush, I will try to just stop, go, stop, go, sometimes maybe five or six or seven times.”
PC PULL-UPS
The importance of the PC muscle was discovered in the West during the 1940s by Arnold Kegel, a gynecologist. He developed the famous Kegel (pronounced KAY-gul) exercises, which help many pregnant women control their bladders and which can ease childbirth. Women found that these exercises could also increase their sexual desire, intensify their orgasms, and help them become multi-orgasmic. Strengthening this muscle is equally important for a man’s pelvic health and sexual pleasure.
There are many different exercises for strengthening your PC muscle that have been taught in the West, most of them adaptations of Kegel’s original technique. All of them teach you to contract and relax the muscle, although the number of repetitions and the amount of time suggested for holding the contractions vary. The following exercise is based on the Taoist awareness that the circular muscles of the body (including the muscles around the eyes, mouth, perineum, and anus) are connected. By squeezing the muscles around your eyes and mouth, you can increase the force of your PC Pull-Ups. It is easiest to begin practicing this exercise while sitting, but later on you can do this exercise while standing or lying down.
Although contracting your eyes and your lips will help you squeeze your PC muscle around your prostate and anus, themosimportant part othe practice issimply contracting and releasing your PC muscle as often as you can, which you can do practically anywhere – while driving, while watching TV, while sending a fax, while in a boring meeting. You can see how many contractions you can do during a red light, or you can hold a single contraction until the light turns green. t f
Try to do the exercise at least two or three times a day, although you can do it as many times as you like. Your muscles may get sore, just as they do after doing regular pull-ups. Don’t push yourself too far; increase the number and frequency gradually. Consistency is more important the quantity. One way to help develop a daily routine is to connect your practice to daily events, like getting up in the morning, taking a shower, or lying in bed at night.
According to the authors of The G Spot, a man with a healthy PC muscle should be able to raise and lower a towel on his erect penis by contracting this muscle. (In the more advanced Taoist practice, you can even learn to use weights to strengthen your pelvic muscles.) For now, you may want to try raising and lowering a towel, but you probably should avoid having an audience. As the authors of The G Spot correctly point out, “‘performance anxiety’ is the archenemy of male erection.”